Seeking Love in the Right Place

We all were once a child, selfish and mindful only of what we want and what we need. But like everyone else, we all have to grow up. We have to learn to be responsible for our emotions, thoughts and actions. Many would love to slack off and hold as long as they can being cared for,  being loved unconditionally and  provided for. The reality strikes that we cannot remain as children…

“When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.”
1Cor13:11

Many of us do not really know where to start or how to start, in fact, I have read 1 Corinthians 13 probably over a hundred times and without truly understanding what it really meant. It was until I was tested that I realized its true meaning.

I thought I knew love and I thought I gave love, but the reality of it was that I was looking for gratification by pretending to love.

Looking back in my life, there are 2 things  I’ve found to be enlightening, that I would like to share:

1. Love is not Self-seeking

My perspective of love and life changed when I read the book Rachel’s Tears. It was the story of Rachel and the other Columbian martyrs who were shot dead in school. Rachel was a teenager. She was a christian who loved music and doodled in her free time. She was a lot of other things but what I found interesting and different about her was that she loved outsiders (people who didn’t fit in school, the uncool, the weirdos). She didn’t expect people to make her feel special, rather, it was her goal in life to make others feel significant. I tried to think the way she thought after reading the book. It was at a time when I was heartbroken from a failed relationship. I was feeling very low but was surprised to find joy in myself by making the conscious effort of making people around me feel special. It also made moving on a whole lot easier.

2. Seek Love from God and no one else

I have caught myself disappointed and frustrated in seeking love from family,  friends, boyfriends,  church,  society and the world. I guess, every man is created hungry for love. My greatest discovery is that no one could fill that void unless it is filled by God first. I have seen people leave, throw away good friendship, backstab me to my face and come back as if nothing happened. It saddens me, but I’ve learned through the years that there is no one on earth I can fully depend on, except for one and that is God. He is the only one who can love us like no one else, make us feel special like no one else, the one who can fill our empty soul. And the more we are filled with His love, then we can overflow to others. When we expect nothing from man and learn to give them love instead of asking it from them, then, we feel loved and fulfilled.

I thank God for the hurtful and sad experiences that I went through. It was in these times that I learned much and grew the most in the area of love. This was the time that I learned to seek love from the source of Love, Jesus Christ.  You too can seek for it and God’s promise is that you will find it – in HIM.

Seeking Love in the Right Place